Married to a controlling narcissist?

Maybe, baby, but I am in my mid-50s and well, that's my life.

Over the years, Narcissy has:

only valued his interests and scoffed at mine
belittled my work
critiqued everything...for example: he has insisted that I hold elaborate dinner parties for his friends and colleagues, then has teased apart all the effort and has proclaimed it either inadequate or "over-adequate" meaning that it was "too good" and "intimidated the other women" if a return invitation was not forthcoming.
you see it is always my fault.
If the kids acted out, "they are looking for something in you, Max, something you're not providing"
I went to all the parent activities
I'm the one who did the required parent work for BOTH of us, narcissy rarely showed up at all. If he did show up he sat there at his passive aggressive best reading the paper and not participating.
he took solo vacations leaving me to work and mind the teens alone (vacations were too expensive to take with four..and he usually announced his plan a couple days or hours in advance)
if I had an interest he devalued it as junk, as only his interests mattered, mine were invalid.
I am a nurse, he referred to it as a "paraprofessional"

Why did you do it,Max?
more on that later
I'm just pissed